Parenting in Today's Competitive
Parenting has become
“Competitive parenting” in today’s world. Competition has
always been a hallmark of parenting, and in today's success-driven
society we measure our child up to his or her peers. Keep in mind
that your child is an individual- and that's a good thing! All children
take their time to develop, and have their own particular strengths.
So what if Tom walked at 10 months and Peter walked at 15 months?
Global competition is real, but so is the timing of childhood milestones.”
says Michael Thompson, Ph.D., author of The Pressured Child and
co-author of the best-selling Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional
Life of Boys.
Parents are overly
involved in their child’s success both in academics and sports.
We want our child to be first in everything. The same thought is
also in the other parent, but do we think for a moment if all the
children could stand first.
Once upon a
time in a land far, far away, there was a world where children
could play at being children. Today, playing fields have become
places where adults measure up their children in the early
phases of the race to Harvard.
We want our
child to learn many languages, music, painting, swimming,
and sports. There is not one skill that the child is trained
or exposed to whereby the child is always running from one
class to another, leaving no room for him to be himself. Accept
that he is a child and has to enjoy his phase of childhood.
The theory of “survival of the fittest” applies to each and
every walk of the society. So a question that arises in our
mind is how to bring up our children in order to face competitive
world and emerge successful.
a happy and loving home environment.
• Believe in them and teach them to believe in themselves.
• Give the child his time to learn. Retain their uniqueness
by not comparing.
• Creativity and inquisitiveness is one blessing about childhood,
allow it to grow.
• Teach him healthy competitive rules but don’t pressurize
him to compete always.
• Make them understand that interest and commitment alone
will lead to success, be an example.
• Assist them in identifying their interest and do all that
you can to develop that skill.
• Stimulate and Cultivate the creativity in him for his deep
rooted desire will make him an “achiever”
• Inculcate in children the value of being self dependent
and this can be taught through example.
• Praise them often and openly, appreciation does wonders.
• Allow the children to grow and learn through the mistakes
• Children especially during the exams need crystal clear
communication, cooperation, understanding and mental peace.
We should try not to put any kind of pressure on the child.
• Library inculcates a sense of discipline in children. It
also makes them kind and compassionate in the sense that library
teaches them to share books and exchange ideas. So have a
library at home.
• You need to encourage the right values and behaviors in
them thereby bring discipline. As an old saying goes: "The
best way to teach character is to have it around the house."
Lack of time is a
parenting issue that has come up in recent years with the accelerating
pace of life, and particularly when both the parents are working.
For parents genuinely hard pressed for time, simply speaking the
truth and expressing their feelings clearly to them, hugging the
children often and laughing with them whenever possible would be
The different roles
and duties parents have to perform keep changing as the children
grow up. Parents need to be self-controlled, tolerant, selfless,
patient, generous, kind, flexible, and above all, givers of unconditional
love. It is difficult, no doubt, but it has been done for centuries
and shall continue for many more. So, let us teach best values that
will lead our children to live prosperously in life.
Indra, M.A., M.Phil in English Literature. I was a full
time teacher for five years after which I have become a freelance
online teacher, creative and content writer. I have a flair for
writing and enjoy writing on youth, women, and education.