When you have
been dumped, the only thing you want to focus on is surviving
it. However, for others, this can be more difficult than moving
on from it. If you would like to win your ex back, all you
need is 4 simple tips to help you do just that.
Friends and Family :
I know this
may seem obvious but lean on your friends and family. Spend
time doing things together, not just talking and thinking
about the break up. If this isnít enough, you may consider
a support group or counseling.
Resist the urge to beg :
You want them back but not at any price. At the time it may
seem the right thing to do but think about it. In the long
run they will lose respect for you. This doesnít mean donít
try to work things out. If there is a chance you can work
things out, go for it. However, if your partner has made it
clear that in their eyes, the relationship is over, begging
will not help and may hurt the situation.
a change in your life :
Find a new way to spend your time. Take a class, join a gym,
adopt a pet, or volunteer. Do anything that will make you
feel good about yourself. Your ego is probably feeling bruised
right now. Find a way to counteract that.
: You wonít feel like
it at first, but donít stay away from other people for an extended
period of time. Going out with other people can help the healing
process and boast your ego.
but also realize that you are not a failure :
Donít beat yourself
up. If you made mistakes, then yes, learn from them
but dwelling on what might have been wonít help. It
takes two to make a relationship, it also takes two
to end one. You werenít the only one who made mistakes.
It may not seem useful to you now, but a lot of times
the things you learned from this experience will make
your next relationship stronger, as long as you make
the necessary changes.
fall prey to others :
There will be people trying to sell you this or that, guaranteed
to win back your partner. Donít let people take advantage of
you while you are vulnerable. If you do buy something, understand
that while there is a chance it could help, there is also a
chance that it wonít.
up a hobby : Learn
something new. There is probably something youíve always wanted
to try but never had the time. You have the time, do it.
rush into another relationship :
While starting to date can help you feel better, itís not
a good idea to rush right into another relationship. Take
time to heal before making any commitments or someone will
probably end up getting hurt.
Avoid dwelling on it :
I know itís impossible not to think about it, but, if you
find yourself doing so for an extended period of time, find
a way to take your mind off of it. Call a friend; go to the
gym, whatever comes to mind. If nothing seems to work, try
this: Make a list of reasons why you are better off now. This
could include I have time to do the things I want to do. I
can date anyone I want to. I can find a partner who will appreciate
me the way I am and stop wasting time on a doomed relationship.
Build your ego : Iíve
touched on this already but it is very important. Find ways
to feel better about yourself. This could be anything from
getting a haircut to buying some new clothes. You could take
a class on self improvement. If nothing else, you should do
this: Make a list of things that make you a great person.
By utilizing these tips you have chance to survive a breakup,
youíll be on the road to win your ex back. They can stop you
from doing some pretty horrible and huge blunders.