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Job Vs Marriage
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It always happens that
even the ordinary words by some one make an everlasting impact in our
minds. It happened in my college, when one of my professors while teaching
the process of selection, described selection of a candidate for a
suitable job as getting married. He said, “Everything goes well if the
right selection is made and it hits rock bottom when the choice is wrong.”
Little did I agree with
him, for I always felt the analogy drawn was completely baseless each
other. Days passed, I completed my Masters Degree and remembered the
Professor for his unusual lectures.
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But after few years I
discovered that his words hold well with a twist in tale. The process
of getting the right marriage partner in India was more structured and
streamlined than getting the right candidate for the job especially when
it is an arranged marriage. When my best friend was ready for marriage.
Her parents began searching the matrimonial websites like searching for
the job sites. Then came the next step of preparing resume or preparing
bio data. If resume is selected next step from the side of employer is
matching skill sets completely in tandem with matching the horoscopes of
future partners.
I wondered why the
horoscopes of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not matched same
way boss and subordinate EQ levels are also not matched. Next step in my friend’s
marriage process was the telephonic round I mean the guy wanted to
speak to her on the phone. I wondered whether he wanted to recruit a
telephone executive or maybe he wanted to check how the voice appears from
distance. Don’t be surprised, this concept has also been borrowed from HR
process and helps in initial screening. By now I started believing that
marriage is also an elimination process like Selection of Candidate for
the Job.
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Coming up next was of
course direct interview. But the difference is that in selection you
have one on one round and then the panel of interviewers will hammer you,
and in case of marriage the panel of grannies, aunts and other relatives
come first and shoot the girl left, right and center with all sorts of
questions. Don’t worry they may convert ordinary interview into often
non-reliable technique called stress interview. They may ask the girl to
walk and turn left or right so that they can test your personality. And
then the future buddies are given a chance to have one on one session. It
may last as long as the panel wants it to be.
Then came the difficult
task in my friend’s marriage process; announcing the result. Who
will spill the beans? |
This task was
outsourced to a third party (common friend) who told my friend’s parents
that their daughter has been selected. I was astonished and not able to
decide whether HR borrowed the concept of outsourcing recruitment to
consultants from the Indian Marriage process or was it the other way
round. My friend was selected for ultimate job. Then was the D-day that
includes all sorts of formalities (Joining). After that, very well defined
induction and orientation period. My friend was introduced to all the
relatives like the new member is introduced to all the teams. One can
hardly forget that period.
My friend’s mother in law
wore a farce look and said, “Dear you are not supposed to work till the
time the color of your Mehandi (Henna) fades away.” Like our bosses tell
us to relax and take it easy. I remember the luxuries we had during the
training for my first job. Like in Marriage Romance fades away with the
color of Henna same way the passion of getting the first job fades away
with each passing day. But the eternal truth is
Indian Marriage system is still one of the best institutions and one can
swear by because its foundation is mutual understanding and the amalgam of
two families. The world will be a best place to live in if we bring in the
loyalty and cooperation in our workplace also. And what happened to my
friend. Her marriage is rocking because the color of her Henna has not
faded away. You know why, because she kept applying oil on the Henna to
retain the color. Where do we find the oil with which we can retain the
color of our passion and dreams of making big?
Contributing Story Teller
Anju
Kotwani
is a freelance writer and likes to pen down
her thoughts on day to day events.
anjukotwani@gmail.com
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